12 Relationship Lies You Need to Stop Telling Yourself

Things are just about perfect; you are at your happy best when suddenly it all starts going downhill. From the way he acts around you to the things he says, everything seems different. But you compare him with his earlier self and hold on to the hope that things will get better. 

Well, give it some time by all means but don't fool yourself into investing in a relationship that will never improve. Here are 12 relationship lies you need to stop telling yourself right now.

1. It’s going to get better: You should give it time if you feel things can get better, but don’t hold on to the hope for too long. It’s better to get out of the relationship now rather than wait for it to destroy you.

2. It’s my fault: We excel in taking the blame and holding our own selves responsible; blame it on the way society always holds a woman responsible. You need to stop believing in this lie right away.

3. Maybe I deserve it: No you don’t! No one deserves to be ill-treated or abused in a relationship.

4. He doesn’t really mean it: Maybe he doesn’t, maybe he does. Make sure you deal with it rationally rather than just delude yourself into thinking that he doesn’t really mean it.

5. He loves me and he’ll change: It’s great to hope that things will get better but at times it's even better to just get out of the toxic relationship.

6. No one is really happy anyway: No one lives a fairytale romance but everyone is happy. So rid yourself of the notion that everyone is unhappy and you just have to deal with it.

7. This is better than being alone: No it’s not!

8. I need to put in more effort: Any relationship is a two-way street. So yes, put in your best effort but don’t be the only one who is trying to work things out.

9. My failed relationships are the reason for this: Everyone has a past and even if yours was more colourful than his, it’s no reason for anyone to mistreat you.

10. Maybe I am not sexy enough: Self doubt tends to creep in most easily in a relationship but you need to stop taking the blame for people mistreating you.

11. We don’t need help: It’s a little difficult to accept that you both might actually need help but don’t shy away from it. Confide in your close friends or relatives and try to get a better perspective – there is nothing wrong in involving a third person when it’s absolutely necessary.

12. It’s a small thing; it doesn’t really matter: Tiny things that you let slide are what can later snowball. Make sure you draw a clear boundary of what you will allow and what you won’t right from the start.